Quote:

"You're not going to master the rest of your life in one day.  Just relax, master the day, then just keep doing that everyday."
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Challenge: 

Make a list of 3 habits you struggle with daily that may be stunting your progression towards your ideal life.  Put them somewhere you will be reminded of them each day (in your alarm title, on your mirror, on your work monitor, etc.  Actively expel those habits everyday.  i.e. I'm always late. I make myself get up and out on time, everyday.  ​

Quote:

"The hardest walk to make is the walk you make alone. But that is the walk that makes you the strongest."
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-Bohdi Sanders

 

Challenge: 

Each week this month, think of something you've been afraid to do on your own, i.e dining out, going to a movie theater, attending a party, making an executive decision at work, traveling, giving a presentation, leading a group, speaking up for someone or something, etc.  Overcome each fear by doing it by the end of each week.  

Quote:

"The reason why a lot of people won't become who they want is because they're too attached to who they've been."

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-Lisa Nichols

 

Challenge: 

So there's the person you are now, and the best version of yourself.  Be honest with yourself and make two lists: One column listing your current qualities, (i.e. withdrawn, passive, optimistic, caring, etc.), and another column listing the qualities of your "best version of you". Each day this month, actively practice the qualities you lack. See if this persistency will help break the attachment of the current set of habitual behaviors defining who you are. 

 

Quote:

"The lonely road to greatness is better than the crowded road to mediocrity."

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-Matshona Dhliwayo

 

Challenge: 

Is there an idea you want to develop but are afraid of what others may think of it? Do you often feel the need to pass your idea by someone for approval before taking action or believing it's good enough? Your challenge is to develop a plan of action on your own, and follow through with it WITHOUT anyone else's approval. If YOU like the idea, bring it to fruition and see what happens. Be your own judge.

 

Quote:

"I started to be free when I discovered that the cage was made of thoughts."

-Unknown

 

Challenge: 

Have you felt stuck in the same place in life for too long?  If there was one big step you could take to break free from this mental cage (towards LIFE!!) what would it be? Think of the biggest, most impactful move you could take, write it down in detail, then take it.
Free yourself from the cage, but before you do, repeat this variation of this month's quote to yourself three times: "My cage was only made of thoughts, so now i'm free."

 

Quote:

" I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

-Maya Angelou

 

Challenge: 

It's easy and relieving to speak on your current emotions, but it can take some effort to consider how your next words will effect those who hear you, especially when you're feeling heightened emotions such as anger, fear, stress or even joy. Do you find yourself saying the wrong words, or not saying anything at all? Are you misunderstood more often than not? This month, before you speak, consider whether your words, tone and energy are getting your message across as intended. To improve the impact of your words or reduce misunderstandings, put yourself in the other person's shoes before interacting, then speak your message clearly and authentically as you "speak to yourself". This mental switch should make a significant difference in your delivery. Communication is power!

 

Quote:

"Do you know the most important commodity is time?  It's the only thing you spend you can't get back. "

-Wu-Tang Saga: An American Saga

 

Challenge: 

We often set goals then put off taking the small steps it takes to achieve them, only to find ourselves in the same place five to ten years later, wondering where the time went. We are all dying, and we don't want to reach the end of our days regretting what we didn't do, or thought we had time to do. Think of one goal you've set for yourself over 5 years ago that you have yet to achieve. Set a realistic, official end date of when you plan to complete your goal, then outline the steps you need to take in order to achieve it. Set small steps with deadlines for each, ensuring that the final step will equal timely success, and a goal you can finally cross off the list.

 

Quote:

"Easy to judge mistakes of others. Difficult is to recognize your own mistakes."

-Anonymous

 

Challenge: 

Judging others. Even the best of us are guilty of it. But what if we put that judgmental energy to valuable use, towards ourselves? Ever notice how it's like second nature to criticize others on the smallest issues while we give ourselves a pass on bigger ones?  

Are you letting things slide with yourself that you wouldn't dare be ok with if it was done by someone like, your daughter-in-law (or son-in-law)? 

 

Given that, I call this the "In-law Yourself" challenge. It's a fast way to honestly judge yourself, by picturing yourself as the in-law, witnessing everything you do.  Here's how it's done:

 

Pick one day and envision your son's current or future spouse. If you don't have children use your imagination. Then, with everything you do (or don't do), ask yourself "If I saw my son's spouse doing what I'm doing right now, would I be ok with it?"  

 

If yes, you're behaving as your best self.  

If no, do exactly what you'd expect his spouse to be doing.  

 

The perk about this method is that you have an internal meter of knowing whether your feelings have a relevant impact on the action in question. So you're able to judge yourself in a way no one else can, making this technique much more accurate than the judgment of an outsider. Keep note of how much you do differently than you would have done when not being watched, by you.